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My one word-2022

Each year I make an effort to think about what I want to accomplish in the coming year. I have been involved this year 2020 with many wonderful and engaging individuals (Too many to name and I do not want to leave anyone out). As I interacted with them I took in all they were saying, doing and how they were engaging. I feel so blessed on this beautiful journey, but it is time for me to take this next step.

Last year I focused on Courage. I did a lot of things around courage. I have a blog, website, stepped out more in my writing with Lead Change, BK authors group and on their planning committee, helped IPA with their conference, helping four principals on their journey and so much more!

It still did not help me breakthrough the resistance of the next step. What holds me back? The noise in my head, the fears from that day are still there and I just hold onto this world I feel like I still have control of in my hands. I can post a blog, a tweet, an article on LinkedIn,a picture on Instagram or a comment on Facebook. Not much will change for me in doing any of those things. However, if I take the next step many things can happen.

If I go with my word Commitment for 2022 and take the next step, things change. A promise to myself to change and challenge myself to take the next step. Psalm 37:5-6 Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you. I am counting on my family, friends and you to help me with this commitment.

I will give my book to my marketing team and my friend Becky in January! It scares me so much. In 2010 my life changed forever and then in 2018, it came crashing back in through a door I fought hard to keep open. Both times I felt as though my life was lost. I worked hard with the help of faith, family and friends to move forward. It feels like to me this book is what has kept me going during this period and if it is not good, the door closes, I know all of those fears, feelings will come flooding into my mind.

A semi-truck hit the vehicle my daughter was driving. I was sitting right behind her.

I am moving forward with commitment as my word for 2022! I will continue to do my writing daily and help others as much as I can. We will hope 2022 brings us all a great year! Have good thoughts for my book Two Rule School as I currently have it titled.

Make the first move! It is Monday!

Do you hold yourself back? Are you afraid to try something, ask a question, or make a big move? Maybe you are thinking of a career change, and you are making lists of the reasons to say yes and no. Well, what is it? Make the first move on whatever you are thinking that is holding you back from a positive impact on your life.

I was telling my granddaughter about the first time I tried out from the high school dance team. I had made up the routine and worked with the group of girls trying out with me. After all, I had been dancing for years.

The day came for tryouts, and I had a couple of girls not sure of themselves. Being the person I am, I looked at them a couple of times to reassure them during tryouts. You guessed it; everyone made it but me.

It was a tough time for me but a great lesson as well. It helped me gain more strength, determination, and courage. I tried out again and made it the next three years. Was making the squad going to help me for my career path? It did! I learned a great deal about leadership, teamwork, and compassion. The most critical skills for me were courage, determination, and confidence.

Find common ground with your team and yourself. List any barriers standing in the way of moving forward to gain positive results. Tackle just one today. Get one off the list. When you can get a win the rest will begin to come into place!

Today I am going to address the labels I have placed on myself. These are coming off today as I focus on the rewrite of my book. I do believe I have words, thoughts and ideas to help others make tomorrow better than today!

Let’s be the solution daily for ourselves and others today!

Integrity, Who has it?

When we have discussions today, the focus seems to narrow. We ask individuals to describe what they see as a characteristic of great leaders; they list integrity as something they all have. Does everyone have integrity?

“People of integrity do not merely commit to integrity-they live and act with integrity. They accept knowing right from wrong and choose to do right.”-Integrity by Design: Working and Living Authentically by Mike Horne

Integrity by Design: Working and Living Authentically by Mike Horne is the new book I am reading! It is full of great insight and guidance. The book delivers approaches for consideration, references to sources to consider, ideas to embrace, and the value of integrity in life. This authentic approach to leadership and change to organizations is an excellent choice for your reading.

Integrity for each individual can be defined as aligning your conduct with values and beliefs. We are always seeking to reflect ethical standards and doing the right thing regardless of the circumstances.

“Developing organizational integrity requires a dedicated leadership effort. Goodness will not grow when left to chance or to a belief that it takes care of itself. The right combinations of experience and learning create supportive environments for the development of integrity.”-Mike Horne

Integrity is an essential part of everyday living. Reflect on a few questions as you think about integrity:

  • Does everyone I work with have integrity? How do I know?
  • How do I encourage, model and celebrate integrity?
  • What questions should we ask?

Integrity by Design is now available on Amazon.

Watch and listen to an interview with Mike Horne! I was on the Zoom call; you can access the recording here.

You can learn more about Mike’s work by visiting Mike-Horne.com.

Thank you for being part of the solution daily!

Let’s Debate

Do we see debates over issues? A debate is a discussion of opposing sides of a specific topic, subject, or issue. An example would be a discussion of the pros and cons of reopening schools after Covid-19. I think I have seen some…. At least they resemble debates.

We most likely would see debates in our legislative branches of government. Have you witnessed debates? I have listened carefully since engaging in researching this topic. We are looking for specific elements in each person pleading their reasoning for their point.

I believe one of the critical skills and elements needed to help children succeed in the future is being able to have essential conversations to debate their points successfully.

The emphasis on teaching children how to protest is misdirected, in my opinion. A focus on how to convince others of the position they have by making points grounded in evidence of value is where the teaching should be focused. Critical thinking skills, knowledge, and strong communication skills will serve all of us in the future with positive outcomes.

Hugo Mercier, in the following TED-Ed clip, explains how an argument can be more convincing when it contains these elements:

  • A good knowledge of your audience you are speaking to.
  • What are the beliefs of the audience?
  • Who and what the audience trusts?
  • What are the values of the audience?

These elements seem like a simple recipe for success. Understanding the audience’s beliefs, trusted sources, and values of others are not always easy for us. As we face an issue, problem or challenge, we do not go first to what we have learned about our audience; instead, we go to our own.

A recipe for success in facing a problem in need of solutions is always to listen first. We hear with more than our ears. To meet issues with debate, reasoning, and convincing rebuttals, we need to embrace all views. Our minds must be open to debate to appreciate and comprehend points different than our set of facts. We have to accept others’ points made convincingly as right and concede when our points are proven wrong.

Every voice has the right to be heard. Actions speak louder than words is often a statement made in high-tempered issues. These actions in no way have ever meant to cause suffering on others, violence, or prevent others from the freedoms granted in this country. Actions moved by the words of others should be in having positive outcomes in the efforts of change. An example would be:

“Today, the sun begins to rise for a new day. It is a chance for each of us to show a new way. To bring to the surface more issues to praise. The life we live changes with every season. Unexpected issues, diseases, challenges, and problems come with no reason. It is our actions, words, and true messages we send out that conveys-The point we try to make.”~Brenda Yoho

Please watch the TED link shared. It is an excellent segment to view. You can find more features to consider as you lead changes and growth in your field. Today is a great day to learn, reflect and lead. Thank you for being part of the solution daily!

Launch into Leadership in all directions!

“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.” -John C. Maxwell

My friend Jon Lokhorst has written an excellent book titled Mission-Critical Leadership, How smart managers lead well in all directions. It is an opportunity to look at your leadership and how every level of your organization can grow. “Using influence to build relationships and deliver results in all directions within an organization, accelerating it faster and further toward its mission.”-Jon Lokhorst

Jon utilizes his storytelling to connect significant points with real-life events to engage readers. These help to provide a visual and connection. I hope you pick up this book to add to your leadership reading library.

Mission-Critical Leadership focuses on leading in all directions, not in the typical one lane where we are considered the boss. This framework looks at how we lead upward, across, and those below on the organizational chart, but first understanding ourselves as leaders.

Self-leadership is critical in this journey as it is your foundation. It isn’t easy to lead others when you are not confident. What impact do you want to have as a leader? How are you described as a leader? Do you engage in professional learning to grow as a leader?

I have tagged, highlighted, written in, and read this book twice. This is a great way to lead. In my career, I have practiced parts of this concept. I genuinely believe Jon has the right idea!

Reach out to Jon:

http://www.lokhorstconsulting.com jon@lokhorstconsulting.com

Thank you for being part of the solution daily! Lift someone up today!

Lifting up leaders!

Equality vs. Equity

The difference between equality and equity is essential to explain. Understanding these terms is crucial as they frequently are used.

“Although both promote fairness, equality achieves this through treating everyone the same regardless of need, while equity achieves this through treating people differently dependent on need. However, this different treatment may be the key to reaching equality. Equality and equity may be inherently different but are also bound together. To create true equality of opportunity, equity is needed to ensure that everyone has the same chance of getting there. However, we must be cautiously when dealing with equity; providing too little to those who need it and too much to those who do not can further exacerbate the inequalities we see today.” https://social-change.co.uk/blog/2019-03-29-equality-and-equity

“Equality means each individual or group of people is given the same resources or opportunities. Equity recognizes that each person has different circumstances and allocates the exact resources and opportunities needed to reach an equal outcome.”

“In the illustration below, two individuals have unequal access to a system — in this case, the tree that provides fruit. With equal support from evenly distributed tools, their access to the fruit still remains unequal. The equitable solution, however, allocates the exact resources that each person needs to access the fruit, leading to positive outcomes for both individuals.”-Adddressing Imbalance, ” by Tony Ruth


As an educator, I look through the lens of seeking equity for all students and providing all students with all of the resources they need to reach a positive outcome. We are still not at this level.

How do you look at equity and equality? What is the most critical factor for you? How can we establish a system now to enhance the future of our children? I believe it is the educational system. I have more profound thoughts on the why, how, and what, but that is for another time. Let’s hear your thoughts.


1 “Racial Equality or Racial Equity? The Difference it Makes,” Race Matters Institute. 2014. Accessed Oct. 15, 2020. http://viablefuturescenter.org/racemattersinstitute/2014/04/02/racial-equality-or-racial-equity-the-difference-it-makes/

2 “How are Equity and Equality Different?” Just Health Action, 2010. Accessed Oct. 15, 2010. http://justhealthaction.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/JHA-Lesson-Plan-3-How-are-equity-and-equality-different-final.pdf

FEAR, What do you do?

Fear is something we have all experienced at different times in our lives and at various levels. Fear can consume our thoughts and cause constant worry. It will steal our time and turn our focus to problems leaving no time for solutions.

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”-Nelson Mandela

Facing fears provide opportunities. It is when we find our courage, we can find ourselves making life-changing decisions. Do you have fear? Many people have fears of making a speech in front of others. Some people have a fear of heights.

Do your fears hold you back? Do you run and hide or face and rise? How do you overcome fear?

We have, according to the nightly and daytime media outlets, lots of narratives of fear. As leaders, we have to think about the impact of these things on our children. We have to help our children learn to face fears as well.

How do you face fears? What are strategies we can share to help others? Please share your thoughts in the comments. Thank you for being part of the solution daily.

Monday Matters! Make it Count!

It is MONDAY! Time to check the calendar for the workweek. What do you have to look forward to this week? Now let’s focus on today! What is on the to-do list?

As Brian Tracy, author of Eat That Frog, told us: “Mark Twain once said that if the first thing you do each morning is to eat a live frog, you can go through the day with the satisfaction of knowing that that is probably the worst thing that is going to happen to you all day long. Your “frog” is your biggest, most important task, the one you are most likely to procrastinate on if you don’t do something about it.”

Brian Tracy and Anna Leinberger have written Eat That Frog for students. It is an excellent book for students as they gain the skills they need to form life-long habits for time management with the tips and tools revealed.

Students at all levels struggle with getting tasks completed, but when they reach secondary levels, the realization of time management sinks in. Students find themselves trying to balance school, extra-curricular, part-time jobs, friends, and family. The authors offer readers tips, tools, and techniques for structuring time, setting goals, staying on task (even when you’re not interested), dealing with stress, and developing the skills to achieve. A welcomed book for parents and teachers!

Please join my friend Becky Robinson from Weaving Influence as she interviews the authors. I had the privilege of being present and was so excited to see this as a great resource. Thank you for being part of the solution daily!https://youtu.be/4_eyBF5x-F0

Doctor, Doctor, Teacher, Teacher…what do you say? I have a bad case of…..

Gather facts before you react!

“Don’t presume learning lost to Covid, ” says John Hattie. “While the pandemic will have created some gaps in knowledge, the author and academic warns teachers against making assumptions when it comes to student progress.”-Simon Lock, March 3, 2021 (tes.com)

The impact of disruption to education we can all acknowledge. Lack of equity and availability of access to technology brought the attention to the needs of improvement. Parental support became an even more significant point as everyone struggled with a balance of work, remote learning and then loss of jobs. Can we acknowledge families and individuals were doing the best they could under these conditions?

The majority of children worked independently in their learning and will have developed skills as a result. Reports on the nightly news reported how schools had a drop in enrollment and we’re having difficulty locating children. Families were working to figure things out as the pandemic touched every life differently.

When all of our schools open the doors for face-to-face instruction, we also need to open our minds to new possibilities. Things will be different! Let’s not have the expectation we will be back to “normal.” Defining “normal” can be varied from person to person. Let’s embrace the facts we have learned from this pandemic and we will diagnose then treat each individual. No prejudgement, labels or categories assigned.

“For example, this notion of self-regulation where you know how to monitor your progress and what to do next; I think some teachers are going to be very surprised that some kids have those skills,” Hattie says. “But in many classrooms they’re not allowed to use them, because teachers won’t release responsibility.”-John Hattie

In previous writings, I have stated my belief in the importance of student control of learning. “Education is something we do with children, not to them.”-Brenda Yoho. When we focus on expectations, strategies, strengths, and areas to improve, it develops support for the learner, not the outcomes. Learners understanding of how to respond when they do not know is a skillset with lifetime value.

The importance of how you approach back to school face to face instruction is critical to propel student learning forward and not back. Time is precious as we know and losing any of it with wasted strategies and plans, will not provide our learners with the push they need. Make solid plans now and know students are ready!

Thank you for being part of the solution daily! Helping learners grow to the next level on their journey.

The road you travel

We can become comfortable in our lives and develop routines; we may miss the road signs of possibilities. In my previous blog, I asked the question, are you afraid? Could emotions be part of the road we decide to travel?

Cleo Wade is one of my favorite authors! She has released a book I can not wait to share with my grandchildren, but it is a book for everyone! What the road said is Cleo Wade’s new book. It is fantastic! So much you can do, share, discuss and develop from her writing.

“Being brave is when you are afraid of doing something, but you do it anyway. Do not let what scares you keep you from continuing on your path….” -What the Road Said. It is our fears of the unknown that can hold us back, or we are afraid of failing. When we do not believe in ourselves and our abilities, it prevents us from trusting the road we travel.

Our journey provides us with many stops along the way filled with lessons hidden in events of celebration, heartache, and trauma. We learn from each and apply it to our lives to allow us to continue our journey. Along our road, we gain support from others, encouraging words and actions. We will stumble at times, but it is always our choice to brush ourselves off and get back on the road to finish our destination.

It is up to the travelers of this world to help those on the road to learning about

  • History
  • Wisdom
  • Lessons already learned
  • Kindness
  • Peace
  • Leading with heart and love
  • Believe in yourself
  • Never give up
  • Forgive yourself and others
  • Reach for your destination; (it is worth the climb)

I hope you will get a copy of What the Road Said and give it as a gift to someone special to you, maybe yourself. It is a book for all ages and a reminder of the pathway we decide to travel. The road is not smooth, and we know that as individuals, leaders, businesses, and countries. However, we each take our history to study and learn. We see where we are today because of former travelers and the lessons they provided. Then we can carve out better paths and make improvements. Each time is making the journey more profound and broader for the next generation of travelers.

Thank you for packing a bag and traveling with me on this journey. Being part of the solution daily is essential to providing better tomorrow’s.