Opportunities come when you least expect them. Many blessings as the doors of opportunities greet you today.
Since a young child, blank pages have called to me. Finding comfort in filling them with words whispered to me from the quiet. Echoes in the breeze carried messages of hope for the day, as sunlight brought warmth to fuel it. Shadows began to dance across the page. Soon darkness will be upon us with only a sliver of the moon and the stars to light the way. Rest is what we will need now as we wait for the sun to bring a new day and new pages to fill.
Find a quiet place, to have a quiet moment, and to enjoy the quiet time. How long can you stay? Is it very far? How will I know when I find it? Will anyone be there?
Many blessings to you on this quiet day……..
Are knowledge and wisdom the same? Can you have one without the other?
Growing in our life journey brings us to many milestones. We celebrate when we reach them and acknowledge the achievements we make. We gain knowledge through learning in school. Memorizing facts, solving equations, discovering historical timelines and more.
Take a look around your environment. Do you see evidence of knowledge? What about wisdom? Do others recognize them? How are knowledge and wisdom shared? Is it accepted?
I know knowledge can be found in textbooks, books from the library, informational videos on the internet, museums and other places we search out. However, knowledge can be found in an individual. My husband will get phone calls on questions to answer as people would do on a google search. However, the knowledge he has would not be found in a search. Is this knowledge or wisdom? Maybe both! The work he does is not something many people are doing. Will this be lost when he stops?
Wisdom is more important in our life, I believe. Wisdom fuels our hearts and refines our minds. It comes to us through our experiences and knowledge; when we add our faith the intentions are made clear. When it comes to faith you are not to stand still. In faith, knowledge and wisdom, you are to continue to grow, learn and live every day of your life fully. The more you do, the better you become. If you share your knowledge, wisdom, and faith, the more seeds you plant, it will continue to grow.
Share, grow, learn and experience. I am reminded of the seasons when I think about the importance of the factors that keep us moving forward.
Watching the Open golf tournament with my husband and a player hits the ball, it makes it to the green, it rolls and hits the flag, denying a hole in one. What? Wait a minute. I call interference. That should count. My husband only laughs at me. It is no laughing matter; I am sure for the golfers or leaders when they realize they have made a big mistake.
Some mistakes we make are lessons we can learn from. I just posted a blog about helping students understand it is okay to make mistakes. However, when you make a mistake with character, there is no turning back.
When staff members do not trust their leaders, it causes big trouble! Let me restate that remark. When staff members have valid reasons that are proven not to trust their leaders, this is critical. When you reread these statements, significant differences between these two statements can be found. In some environments, you have toxic individuals who always look for trouble—explaining my first statement. Disruption in your building or organization will happen if these are not addressed. However, when a leader does not lead with character, this is critical to the structure and organization. Trust will be gone, and no growth will happen.
Some examples would be:
- Leaders have taken credit for staff member’s work.
- Throwing staff under the bus- blaming
- Fabricating- Lying
- Inauthenticity-changing when it seems like the best thing to do for themselves
- Point out mistakes, belittle, criticize in front of others constantly
- Playing favorites (everyone can see and hear the ones who get the most attention)
- Ego driven leadership style
- Lack of communication and transparency -Staff avoid conversations for fear of retaliation
- Staff feel in the dark, neglected, and avoided
We are human, and we make mistakes. Recovery from breaking trust with staff is not a reset you can do. There are many things to do when you make a mistake staff will need to move forward. The first is to own it. Apologize for the mistake you made and explain the action steps you will take to correct and prevent it from happening again.
Leadership is like everything else in life. The more practice you have, the better it gets. To change anything, you need to start with, as Michael Jackson says, “The Man in the mirror.” To be politically correct, let’s say, person.
What do you choose to focus on? How do you help others with their focus? Make this Monday count as we all focus together!
Leadership is about solutions. Problems are all around seeking our attention. Can you identify the leader in the group when working?
If we keep our focus always on problems, solutions are hard to see. Do you know individuals who only see problems?
What is the solution in helping others focus on solutions? Do you have ideas? Please share….I will tomorrow
If you could pick one habit to fix, what would it be?
What happens when the leader is gone? Do you lead so that it does not matter if you are present or not, the work is completed? My sister told me a story about how the staff was happy when their boss left for a few weeks on medical leave. The feel of the building changed, everyone was more content, and the work was done better.
What kind of environment, culture, and procedures are in place? Is it possible to work with leaders who help to make others better?
Which one connects with you? Can you add to these messages? What can you share?
When we face challenges, we can find the leadership, skills, discipline, and resilience needed to overcome them. As we glance back at the past, we can see the many issues tugging at our hearts. Then we can feel the pains in our bodies from the battles we have endured. Finally, a light shines through as smiles begin to show through from the masks once hidden from view.
It has been a tough time. It continues to be a struggle, especially for our children. Each day brings us one day closer to solutions.
There is one thing I am optimistic about today. We can emerge stronger if we are wise in our planning. Many people count on your leadership! What we need to remember is not everyone is ready to move full steam ahead. In our plans, we have to make room for the social and emotional part.
During this time, many lost loved ones, dealt with illness themselves, or faced fears at levels we may not understand. What we do understand is the process through which individuals effectively apply knowledge, skills, attitudes, emotions, and empathy is through social-emotional learning. Along with this is maintaining positive relationships and decisions. We can begin with setting positive goals to achieve.
Keep in mind staff can experience secondary traumatic stress (STS). Depending on the type of organization or business you have, staff members can receive daily stress. Staff in school settings are definitely at risk of experiencing STS as children share in many different ways when they have stories to tell.
- Provide staff with opportunities to discuss
- Have outlets for stress relief
- Have fun
- Talk about ways to manage emotions and stress
- Provide opportunities for training on social-emotional, trauma, mental health, and overall self-care
- Model how to support each other
- Set up checkups with staff. Check in on them as much as you can
Thank you for being part of the solution daily.