Category: Coaching

Please Love’em ❤️

Friday’s always remind me of family and friends. As an administrator, I took this night to have as our night together. We had pizza or went out to dinner, and when my daughter was cheering, we took in whatever game she was at to enjoy.

I just finished reading the book Love’em or Lose’em Getting Good People to Stay by Beverly Kaye and Sharon Jordan-Evans. I highly recommend this book to everyone working with individuals!

As I was reading, I did a great deal of reflecting as an employee at different stages in my career and as a leader. I never really liked to refer to myself as the “boss” because I felt like we all worked as a team, but if there was a mistake, I wanted to be the one to take responsibility.

In the book, you will find 26 chapters which matches the 26 engagement strategies for busy managers. I love how the book is set up in the contents. It allows you to have a quick reference of the topic of the chapter, meaning and reflective questioning. Perfect for the readers to prepare for reading for more than content, but with a more in-depth look into beliefs, practices and actions. The best part is you can start at the beginning, in the middle or at the end. To help guide you even further, they have included at the beginning a Retention/Engagement Index to do a self-assessment to help direct you to chapters you may want to read first based on your score. This book meets you where you are! Look at the content list of chapters, complete the REI and see where you want to start. Perfect for everyone!

One of the chapters in the book is Dignity. Ponder and reflect on this word. If you are a leader how do people describe you? What if you are a co-worker? As we work in an environment, it is essential to get to know each other, understand cultures, learn about differences and build trust.

“Honoring others and treating them with dignity and respect may mean managing your moods?” We may have times when we need to apologize to others if we cannot control our moods. An example could be: an open meeting we disrespect another employee by yelling at them or making comments to belittle them. Recognizing this is not the best way to approach any situation. Providing an apology is a sign of respect and is appreciated.

Notice your staff, smile, greet them, introduce them to others, and help to make them feel visible. When people leave a job they often report they felt invisible. Your staff and co-workers want to be noticed and included.

In my blog post Wednesday Window Pain, I mentioned a story of my boss not being in her office after asking me to come over. Bosses who are busy, may seem to be unreachable. In my situation, it was true. I never had a time I could speak to her.

Employees feel unimportant and disrespected when they have to ask repeatedly to meet with the boss. Then when they do not hear back from the boss, you begin to lose them.

“Treating an employee with dignity means acknowledging how difficult and unique this life situation is.” Listen to employees’ needs and wants. Respond to them quickly and follow up if needed. Be helpful to them in their time of need. My boss always told us a story about a person dying because they worked so much. Remember, she said, we will continue to work when you are gone. You will be replaced and we will move on. I think she was trying to motivate us to spend more time with family, but the message was not clear to all.

Treat those you work with and for with respect, dignity, and love. You spend a great deal of time with those who choose a job you each wake up every morning to do! Isn’t it the best job and one you love! Don’t lose people who love what you all do!

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Put me in Coach!

It isn’t easy sometimes to understand where you are in this game of teaching and learning. We all need a coach, feedback and checked on to let us know we are doing okay. Teachers, leaders, parents and students, we all need some coaching!

I write my blogs to reach someone who needs a little encouragement, inspiration, motivation, resources, or guidance. I am not a famous author(yet). I do not have unique letters in front or behind my name. The letters before my name are Mrs. that I have proudly had for 36 years. My special title is grandmother but my grandchildren call me MooMoo. You can ask me how I got the unique name another time. An exceptional student gave me the name HoHo early in my career so I always make a big deal about Christmas! All of this and my years of experience with thousands of children and staff provide me with a passion and purpose to continue to help anyone I can. My expertise comes from on the job training, studying and my continuous learning.

I have studied all of the expert’s John Hattie, Jim Knight, Todd Whitaker, Jay McTighe, Anthony Muhammad, Richard DuFour, Grant Wiggins, Michael Fullan, Eric Jensen, Thomas Guskey, Carol Dweck, Robert Marzano, Charlotte Danielson, Peter DeWitt, Baruti Kafele and my list could continue to many more! I love to read, listen to podcasts, watch webinars and YouTube videos. I am always on the lookout for more solutions, asking more questions and ready for new innovations.

We are in this together! If you have read some of my previous posts, you will understand, I will never give up on any child or individual. Many will choose to give up on themselves, but that is when the coach can send in supports to help. We have to ask ourselves are we seeking compliance or exceptional? In one of my previous posts I referred to the poem “Pretty Good.” It is always great to revisit that poem when you are working on improvements. I always strived to have everyone be exceptional! Why not?

If we perceive ourselves as the best, we will be the best. I made the statement often, “Only the best walk the halls of this school.” It is tough to change the tones of conversation and to have others believe in what is said. Understanding how others see things means we have to take a step back and look through a different lens. Right now, everything seems to be strange, unusual, and not ordinary in any way. Teachers are being asked to do things differently, and so are students, parents, and leaders.

At this time, it is essential to establish supports and coaching. Having the right kind of coaching, the best-trained individuals, and an implementation process to move forward. Jim Knight is the right person to help guide you through what you need. It is critical to not only focus on academics but also other areas of needs like social-emotional.

In my previous position, we were able to secure individuals to help support families and students. This new role was family liaisons. These individuals worked closely as a group to establish community connections, organize activities to address needs, and provide information as well as resources to families.

I served as a coach for the Illinois Principals Association, and one of the principals I was working with took coaching in her elementary building to a new level, students. Looking over data, talking with staff about it, we decided some important people were missing from the conversations, students. A student leadership and coaching group were formed. They organized meeting times with students to review data and to talk about how to improve. I am leaving out many of the steps we took to get the students prepared, but I wanted to end with letting you know having coaches at every level, providing feedback, taking action steps will equal positive outcomes. If you want to know more about coaching tune in to Jim Knight or contact me. Just like Jim tells you. We have lots of free things to give to you. We want you to succeed in what you are doing in the classrooms.

Listen to Jim Knight in a short video clip about coaching!

Thank you for being a solution daily to all you serve! I am always here to help you; just let me know what educational, leadership, or support you need. It would be great to have some feedback!

Please share your feedback with me! I would love to know what things you want to know more about, what concerns you have, or anything you are willing to share in the comments or send me an email.