Category: #mistakes

Pull back the curtain-Pay attention to the man behind it!

Growing up, our family tradition was to watch The Wizzard of Oz! It captured my heart from the first time I watched it, and it still does! One of the best parts is when they reach Emerald City. They finally get to make their way to see the Great Wizard of Oz when: Toto rips the curtain to the side; the Wizard of Oz realizes he’s been found out and tries to cover it up by shouting over his loudspeaker, “Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain!”

No curtains were involved at the Oscars, when the most disgusting view aired for all to see. I stopped watching these shows a long time ago for many reasons. However, everywhere you turn the video of this scene has overshadowed anything that took place on this awards night.

I am sharing the article from Brian Dodd as I feel it perfectly captures the points I agree with when thinking about this display of actual behavior. The curtain did not have to be pulled back, nor did someone need to say pay no attention to that man; in fact everyone is sharing and saying look at this! However, the need to not only look at this but to take a step back and realize what it means.

We continue to provide platforms, reward behaviors like this, and accept them quickly to move on. Will Smith received a standing ovation after this display of behavior. His wife laughed after he hit Chris Rock. Then we wonder why?

  • Why are people so angry?
  • Why do people yell at each other?
  • Why do people escalate so fast and act out in violence?
  • Why do people think placing hands-on others is okay?
  • Why do our children think it is okay to………..

The role models in the world we are living in are not what they seem to be when the curtain is pulled back or not. I think we can do better!

Regain Balance when facing setbacks

Setbacks happen. Have you experienced a setback? How have you regained your balance to get back on track? Setbacks can be crushing, cause serious doubts, or can be easier to handle after you experience several setbacks.

Facing setbacks is something we can help teach others to understand. When day-to-day setbacks occur for others, we can point out the opportunity to use them as learning opportunities. As a teacher, when a student fails a test, it can be a massive blow to them. The first steps to take are in discovering the cause of the failure. An authentic learning experience to help support students, evaluate teaching to serve students better and provide students with tools to apply for life-long learning.

Significant events that drive setbacks are more challenging to handle and overcome. Circumstances of serious illness, death and significant financial losses take on more approaches to support each individual.

A setback causes us to become unbalanced as we struggle with our emotions. It is natural to have feelings about situations we face. Gaining control over our emotions is essential to retaining our balance as we face forward. Setbacks are learning opportunities. This is how we must look at each one. Every setback we face helps build our resiliency to rebound and gain balance.

Think about a time you faced a setback. What steps did you take to help regain your balance? Here is one of the setbacks I faced and the steps I took.

Steps of Setback

As a middle school principal, I knew the importance of building trusting relationships. When I was involved in a near-fatal car accident, I knew getting back in front of staff and students was essential. My setback was a learning opportunity for all of us.

  • Acknowledge the struggle of the accident
  • Identify the challenges of the recovery
  • Provide the knowledge of what has not changed
  • Assurance of the return
  • Understand the levels of support
  • The daily basis of the foundation of faith
  • Encouragement of this learning opportunity for all

Balance is gained by forming a solid foundation to stand on as we build resiliency. Helping others identify their support system, core values, and beliefs will provide the balance they need in overcoming setbacks.

Talking face to face with staff and students together so they could see me in person was important. They needed to see me, hear my voice, and listen to my message of learning. The impact of my accident did not need only to be the crash site, but the lessons learned to impact all lives it could touch.

Smart People-Make Mistakes

Making Mistakes

Everyone makes mistakes! I think some individuals think they can’t make a mistake. Worse than thinking you can’t make a mistake is needing help and not asking for it. Think about mistakes, talk with others and discuss if it is easy to ask for help.

“Take the attitude of a student, never be too big to ask questions, never know too much to learn something new.”

Oh Mandino

As my title states, intelligent people or knowledgeable individuals will not ask for help when they need to ask. Not asking for help is a big mistake. They allow their clouded judgment to get in the way, or is it ego?

Thinking you may know more about everything than anyone else is not a good choice. Considering we know more is another mistake of closing the door to opportunities for learning and resources when you tune them out. Have you ever been in a professional development workshop and watched as others graded papers or did stuff on their phone?

Avoiding, hiding, and ignoring problems hoping they will go away is a huge mistake. These actions make concerns grow more extensive. We have to address issues and the people causing the problem.

Controlling Reactions

  • Ask for help when needed
  • Never allow yourself to think you know everything
  • Control reactions by learning to adapt
  • Avoiding, ignoring and hiding problems makes them grow. Instead, stand up to face and resolve.

Be aware of your thinking and your actions. Making mistakes happens to all of us. Let’s not make them a habit. We deal with invaluable children to lose sight of the significance of our work.

Who’s Talking?

Have you had a great conversation lately? Who was it with? Did you do more talking or listening? When do you feel more uplifted? Is it when you are talking or when you are listening? Who are you listening to?

I work at home with my writing. I have no media on at all. My house is entirely silent, except for the birds you can hear outside. My husband says it would drive him crazy he has to have the outside world’s noise on when he is home.

It is the chatter from others that can quickly change our moods and outlooks. However, it is our voice we have to control inside ourselves at times. The negative self-talk we listen to impacts the decisions we make and the outlook we have.

When you woke up this morning, did you have thoughts running through your head? Maybe the thoughts were reminding you of something you said or did yesterday that was not good. Did you continue to listen? Was it making you feel bad about starting your day? Maybe you should talkback!

Instead of listening to the negative thoughts, you receive talkback. You do not need to receive negativity; speak to yourself in positive, solution-focused ways. Mistakes happen in our lives. We are not perfect or without sin. Once we recognize the wrongdoing, we learn the lesson and correct the wrong. This is the solution-focused way. Those who continue to dwell on a problem are not living and leading the best life. “Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart sad? I will put my hope in God!”-Psalm 42:11

My heart breaks for many in the world today. I pray each day during my daily devotions. It is essential not to be discouraged but to place our trust, hope, and love on the one so many seem to have forgotten. Are you listening to yourself today or talking to yourself?

Remind yourself often of the true things. Take a little time each day to list all of the things we can have gratitude for having. A critical reminder is to review this list and do all you can to protect these rights, gifts, and treasures.

Many blessings.

Mistakes, Do you make them?

It is so important to teach children it is okay to make mistakes. We do not make them with intent or to cause harm. Mistakes occur when we dare to try something new, utilize our creativity or innovation, attempt to solve a problem, and the list can continue of examples. It all leads to the same factor…we are human!

Can you imagine where we would be today if all of the great inventors decided not to take a chance? If that were the case, then the device you are using to read these words would not be around.

Celebrate the lessons mistakes bring to us. It is so tricky when the mistake may have brought harm to you or someone else. I have experienced all of those mistakes, and it is hard to accept and not to wonder why.

I can think of many people in sports, entertainment, politics, and everyday life who have experienced a mistake that cost them something valuable in their life. Still, they have utilized it to bring even more to an already gifted life.

I am blessed. I would not have said that several years ago. I could only see the mistake, problems, and losses. However, now I can see that my words can fill this page and, with a click, could help someone see the mistake, a problem, or a loss can bring you to a new place to provide for others and breathe new directions for you.

Thank you for reading, following, sharing, and being a solution daily. The goal only needs to be one individual and if it is more, then job well done!