Category: Education-Trauma-Sensitive

Wednesday Words, What words inspire you?

Stop doing that! Get up! What were you thinking? Why are you so slow?

I can hear the tone behind the words. How you start your day impacts your way! As the day goes by, all of the impacts of the interactions weigh on your emotions. At the end of the day, if you have stored up all of these emotions, it can come out as an explosion!

Helping others understand how to handle the words they encounter throughout the day will help process the emotions to express appropriately. Self-regulation is an effective tool for everybody to have.

There are many new tools available to address the needs we all have right now to reduce the stress we are experiencing. I have seen advertising for apps to purchase, books, music, painting, coloring but the most essential tool is words.

Words we hear, speak, repeat, read and continue to dwell on each moment. Negative self-talk comes from a seed placed we continue to water until it grows into a depression that gets out of control or a fountain of beauty.

There is a commercial on TV my entire family laughs at because it reminds them of me. A man is leading a group on how not to become your parents. His question, “Do we need all of these signs to tell us to Live, Laugh, and Love? The answer is, no.” He throws the sign in the garbage. I have positive words and phrases everywhere! I have had them for years! It kills me when he throws it in the trash.

Surrounding yourself with positives cannot be wrong, I tell myself. I recognize that too much can be overwhelming, but a few is all I need! I am not planning on inviting this guy over to my house anyway.

Try for one week to use some of the words from the word lists I provide and to share a couple of inspirational video clips. See if it makes a difference, did people make comments, notice a change or what did you learn from it?

Video clips you will enjoy! The last one is one of my favorite ones because I believe every individual is different and unique; that is AWESOME!

Thoughtful…Thoughts on a Thursday

#Bethesolutiindaily

What do you want out of life? What do you want to be when you grow up? What are you going to do when you graduate from high school?

I am sure you have been asked these questions or asked them, but are they the right questions? Let’s give a little thought to them today.

One of my high school teachers had great insight as she leads our class in a discussion about real-life after asking some of these questions to our senior class. She told us, “Life is not a fairy tale where everything turns out positively with a fairy godmother granting wishes.” We were in her home economics class discussing family life. She was a great teacher who really knew how to grab our attention. Many of us were in serious relationships and already talking about marriage at the age of 17, myself included.

Mrs. Beth Moore decided a mock wedding and designing household budgets would be great ways to learn. We even had additions to our families to care for as we went along. It was a great learning experience! Budgets, unexpected bills, loss of jobs, arguments and great discussions.

I carried with me those lessons as I did marry my high school sweetheart at the age of 19, and our life journey has been full of opportunities! The struggles, success, and sickness reminded us of what we wanted. We are blessed with three grandchildren and a life that continues to provide opportunities.

Positive experiences are easy to handle. It is when negative effects come crashing in unexpectedly you feel overwhelmed and want to give up. The struggles we have experienced together and the individual ones brought strength in our abilities to overcome. However, it also gave gratitude for the struggles in order to appreciate what we have today.

Are we able to provide Mrs. Moore’s lessons today for our students? Can we change our questions to include, “What are you willing to work for?” “What struggles will you face? “Can you work through struggles to achieve your goals?”

My husband joined the United States Navy. I had never been away from home. We left after our wedding with everything we owned in a mustang car with a storage topper. He made $800.00 a month. We had a car payment, rent and utility, and groceries to pay for each month. Not a lot to work with each month. We made it work.

We are going through difficult times today as a nation. The challenges we face are examples for our children on how to make it through traumatic events. Children are facing severe issues as well, and we must not forget them. They lack socialization, regular routines, and the many fears they have all need to be addressed.

All hands on deck to address the issues for our children. They need to be back in school, involved in activities, and back on track for their goals. They have struggled and will continue to work. The struggle they are experiencing now has gone on too long; it will break many of them if we do not intervene soon.

Children need guidance in life lessons to navigate through the hurdles. Make thoughtful action plans to address the needs of all children, staff, families, and communities. It will take all of us working together to create an environment for healing and growth.

Make a plan today to change the lives of tomorrow who will shape the future! Ask different questions, listen more than telling, and support through thought fullness.

Finding Focus for Solutions- Suicide Prevention


Is the Pandemic Fueling A rise In Suicide Attempts Among kids? Shots-Health News: NPR

A cluster of suicides in Las Vegas, plus a troubling rise in youth suicide attempts observed in ER nationwide, is raising fears that the pandemic is fueling a children’s mental health crisis- Read on at https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2021/02/02/962060105/child-psychiatrists-warn-that-the-pandemic-may-be-driving-up-kids-suicide-risk?s=09

Suicide Prevention is a priority for me, as I know it is for so many others. This pandemic has highlighted the importance of mental health and recognizes the need to support schools in helping to meet all of the needs of the students they serve.

If you have lost someone to suicide, you understand the emotions and questions it brings. I cannot state the names of those I have lost; I can only share the countless conversations held over decades regarding possible suicide, school-wide campaigns to prevent suicide, and strategies to use for self-care.

Running to me were two young sisters with tears flowing, arms wrapping around me and a mother looking at me with eyes full of sadness. Next to the mother was the beautiful youngest daughter, the sister who always reminded me she did not get to have me as a teacher like her sisters. Serving as Assistant Principal, for a short time before the family had moved away, I felt the pain for the family.

She had always dealt with low self-esteem, bullying, and not finding where she fits in. I had talked a great deal with all of them about strategies, things to do, and help to seek out. Why at age 16? Questions and emotions come flooding in.

It is essential to talk with, watch for signs, look for changes, monitor computer usage, and many other differences you see in your child. There is not a magic age number as this pandemic is showing suicide rates at very young ages. Please continue reading on ways you can help—advocate for more services for our children.

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2021/02/02/962185779/make-space-listen-offer-hope-how-to-help-a-child-at-risk-of-suicide?utm_campaign=storyshare&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_medium=social

Make Monday’s Matter!

#Bethesolutiondaily

The weekend is over! Tomorrow is Monday! Oh boy, here we go.

Monday seems to get a negative vibe without even giving it a chance sometimes. Each day is a gift in itself if we shift our minds into thinking things differently!

In my career, I have always mixed up the days by calling them something different to change the tones. I did this as a Teaching Assistant and through my various positions in education.

Each day brings to each of use different challenges, choices, experiences, hope, rewards and sometimes hardships. It is in those areas we grasp our need to reach out for support to help us.

Solutions to our situations may not always be a quick answer, but a moment of encouragement can free the mind to have a sliver of hope needed to move to the next hurdle.

Life is not easy and unfortunately, our children are seeing those times right now. We have to all agree the pandemic has touched every life! Lives have been changed at different levels.

It is up to us to begin today to always make Monday matter and each day after that. Positive, optimistic, and supportive confirmation to those we serve will provide them with the push needed to face those barriers in front of them.

I will continue to share more ideas for themes you can use, but if you need help, please reach out to me. I am happy to help any of you make a difference in the lives of those you serve. Blessings to all on a meaningful Monday!

@bethesolutiondaily

Wednesday Wisdom @ASCD

“Your off to great places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting, so get on your way!”~Dr. Suess

No! I can’t! Papers pushed off the table. Feet and chairs are moving. Door slams shut and then the sound of the elevator door opening.

Searching for the keys to the car, I paused. What just happened? I have seen this before, but I was not pushing papers off the desk or yelling; it was one of my students in a classroom.

Frustration points are real to individuals suffering from trauma and injuries. It is beyond the scope of thinking clearly and responding to typical reactions. Understanding the “why” and the “what” behind the behaviors of who you are dealing with help with the solution.

Trauma victims have big mountains to climb, but they can do it. There is no magic timeline of when they will reach it. They need to know when they stumble; you won’t let them fall too far. Safety, security and the ability to make a few mistakes is all they need when they look up and find a strong support system in place. Oh, the places they will go!~Dr. Suess

Trauma-Sensitive Schools information and resources are available on the ASCD website. We have all experienced trauma! If you need help, please ask me, and I will do all I can for you. We are the solution.

http://www.ascd.org/publications/educational-leadership/oct20/vol78/num02/toc.aspx

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