Tell us Thursday! No, I don’t think so!

“Take these test papers home and have a parent sign them. Bring them back and place on my desk tomorrow. Make sure your parents go over these tests with you.”

Sally took her test paper from the teacher and saw the big red F. It was math, and she was not doing so well after being gone for her grandmother’s illness and funeral. It was tough seeing her grandmother so sick in the hospital and then dying.

Sally took the paper home. Her dad worked the second shift, so it was just her and her mom. She took out the math test and told her mom all about it. Math was not her mother’s subject either but she signed the test to put in her book bag.

The next morning after the family breakfast, it was off to school. Dad had to go back to work early for overtime, so he was leaving too.

Sally took out her things and then walked up to place the test on the teacher’s desk. As she was walking back to her seat she heard.

“Sally, what in the world is this. You did not have your mother sign this. This looks like you tried to sign your mother’s name. Get out to the hallway now!”

Everyone was looking at her. She went to the hallway as the teacher followed. The teacher went to the classroom next door and was telling her I had signed my mother’s name to my test. I need you to watch my class so I can go down to call home.

“Call home? Oh no, she can’t call home. This will be horrible for my mom. How embarrassing for my mom.”

“Please, don’t call home.”

Too late, you should have thought about that before you lied and cheated. Now sit here with your head against the wall.

Both classrooms were looking at Sally as tears fell from her eyes. The tears were for her mother not for herself, but no one asked; they were telling. If the teacher would have asked Sally privately the true story could have been told. It would have saved the humiliation of many that day!

The truth behind this story is about a young 3rd-grade girl who was very shy and kept to herself. Her mother did sign the test paper but the teacher thought it was a forged signature because of all the eraser marks.

See, my parents did not have an education, but they respected it. Teachers were important people. My mother had the most beautiful handwriting; she could only write her name. She wanted it to be perfect for the teacher. This is why it was erased so many times. It was going to the teacher so it needed to be perfect.

I did not want the teacher to call home because I did not want my mom to be embarrassed. She had cried so much and lost her mom; she did not need the teacher yelling at her too. I did not want the teacher to think poorly of my mom because she did not have an education. She was the best mom anyone could ask for.

My older sister was at home when the teacher called. I was so thankful she came to the school. She asked if I wanted to go home and I did. The teacher looked at me but never apologized for anything to me. Maybe she was humiliated. Probably not as I look back. Still, I wouldn’t say I like math because of that dumb math test!

This real story in my life was brought back to my attention as I read Humble Inquiry by Edgar Schein. The book begins by pointing out three kinds of humility. The three kinds are: Basic humility, Optional humility, and Here-and-now humility.

Basic humility is a social position people are born into. Optional humility is a status achieved by accomplishments in their life that are more than we have, so we respect or envy them. Here-and-now humility is a temporary feeling when we are dependent on another for a task, need, or support. An example would be a doctor in an operating room with several different people. They could be of varying status levels. They depend on each other to complete the surgery with success.

I was worried that my mom would be humiliated (embarrassed). She thought highly of the teacher and would not want to be called out about her signature. The teacher had Optimal humility.

I am looking forward to the second edition of Humble Inquiry! Please order your copy now on Amazon!

In our society in general, we do a great deal of telling. My story is from many years ago, but it is still relevant. Do we ask the right questions? Most importantly, do we listen? Do we acknowledge?

I have lots of books about communication. I believe this is a skill needing improvement! The first step to better communication is Humble Inquiry as we ask the right questions and move away from just telling.

Humble yourself today as you begin to be the solution daily.

Words of Wisdom-Wednesday

Today is a gift; unwrap it with care as you share with others. It will continue to provide if you are wise. ~B.Yoho

Authors spend many hours filling blank pages with words they hope will inspire, engage, create feelings, promote innovation, and so much more. It is through this work they desire feedback to validate and encourage them to continue to produce more for us to consume and enjoy.

Do you have a favorite author, quote, or individual who provides the spark you need to lift you? Have you ever considered yourself as an individual who does that for someone else? Another question, do you provide opportunities for others to share their words of wisdom?

My life journey has given me opportunities to recognize the importance of every day. I have always said today is a gift be careful about how you unwrap it. Students would look at me with a puzzled look. When they did, this allowed me to explain my thought. It goes like this:

This morning when you woke up, it was your gift to start the day. Maybe it greeted you with bright sunlight, new snow, or dark rain clouds. Right then, you had a choice in how you were going to begin to unwrap your day. Everything is about the choices you make. We have no control of the weather, but we do control how we react. So do you greet with a smile to breakthrough any clouds, a frown to block out the sunlight, or tears to add to the muddy pathways?

How you start to unwrap your day helps to keep it going smoothly! Have you ever had a gift with too much tape or hard to get open? Some days are just like those gifts! So you tackle those with additional tools to help you make adjustments. Sometimes you ask for help, look at it from a different angle, or take a break and deep breath to try again.

The most important thing to remember is, this day is your gift. You can control the choices you make today because they can help or hurt tomorrow’s gift.

Then I always summed up my story with my famous phrase they could all repeat. You can choose to be part of the problem or part of the solution, the choice is always mine to make.

You can be part of the problem or part of the solution;
the choice is yours to make

It is my hope people will begin to share with me, connect with me, and I can help lift them. I believe we have great leaders, teachers, and children. I want to help with the mindset of we can.

Make Monday’s Matter!


The weekend is over! Tomorrow is Monday! Oh boy, here we go.

Monday seems to get a negative vibe without even giving it a chance sometimes. Each day is a gift in itself if we shift our minds into thinking things differently!

In my career, I have always mixed up the days by calling them something different to change the tones. I did this as a Teaching Assistant and through my various positions in education.

Each day brings to each of use different challenges, choices, experiences, hope, rewards and sometimes hardships. It is in those areas we grasp our need to reach out for support to help us.

Solutions to our situations may not always be a quick answer, but a moment of encouragement can free the mind to have a sliver of hope needed to move to the next hurdle.

Life is not easy and unfortunately, our children are seeing those times right now. We have to all agree the pandemic has touched every life! Lives have been changed at different levels.

It is up to us to begin today to always make Monday matter and each day after that. Positive, optimistic, and supportive confirmation to those we serve will provide them with the push needed to face those barriers in front of them.

I will continue to share more ideas for themes you can use, but if you need help, please reach out to me. I am happy to help any of you make a difference in the lives of those you serve. Blessings to all on a meaningful Monday!


Wednesday Wisdom @ASCD

Tuesday Talk: What do you say?


What do you tell your students, staff and families?

We are always told to welcome and greet students each day. Making sure we check in with students helps to connect them to our school and classroom. Additionally, the morning meeting provides opportunities to identify any issues to address early to prevent from escalating to something more.

How do we end our day with students? What do we do to ensure they will transition from school to home in a positive way? This helps our bus drivers with those sometimes long commutes! Also, our children may be going home alone or to take on the role of caring for siblings.

Do we reflect on the partnership we have with parents in helping with these transitions from home to school and school to home? Lots of things happen in between we all need to know to help better serve the needs of all.

There is a great deal to know about every story behind every child. Daily they provide us with looks into the pages, but never a full read from cover to cover.

During my years as principal I served students in high poverty areas where gangs were present and so many other issues facing them. We designed many programs, strategies, approaches and curriculum to support their needs. We were adding layers and layers still never seeming to be enough.

My students knew my vision, beliefs and expectations. They could repeat my words, would freely come to talk to me about issues and most importantly, understood I would never give up on them! How do I know? Let me share just one story I struggle with because I just do. I will not say his name but will call him Jay!

Jay entered middle school in 6th grade as part of our AVID (Achievement via Individual Determination) program. He continued with excellent grades until 7th grade we started having a few issues. By 8th grade a complete breakdown and removal from the program, an arrest by the police and involvement with gangs.

The story is missing many parts, interventions, conversations, and interactions we had together. My story had some changes during that time as well. He was preparing for high school and I was transferring to the central office.

I had fantastic staff members who recognized this was a difficult transition for me. They organized a special gift for me by having some of the students I worked with the most sign a message to me on a beautiful picture of a tree with a quote. Jay’s message meant a great deal to me. “Thank you for never giving up on me.”

He would see me at the high school when I would go to visit and he would make sure to come to talk to me. Then he found himself in trouble again and again.

No matter where I went I always placed students and families first. No matter what meeting I was in my staff knew to interrupt if it involved them.

A note came to me while I was attending a central office meeting stating my secretary was on the phone and needed me. I asked to me excused.

“You told me to interrupt you if a student called you and needed you. I have one on the phone.”

“Thank you, transfer to me.” Mrs. Yoho, he said

“Jay, what is going on?”

“You said we could always call for help. I need help with bus transportation to school my mom kicked me out.”

I went to pick him up, got the transportation arranged, provided my cell phone number and talked with his principal.

In the car to take him to his grandmother’s where he was living, we had a chance to talk briefly. Jay told me I had saved his life more than once and he was trying to do better. He was praying and doing all the things I had talked to him about. He said, “You never give up on me.” Absolutely not! I believe in you! I know how smart you are and I trust you. Call me anytime you need help and I will do what I can. “Thank you.” were the last words I heard from him.

The newscaster came on to say 18-year-old found in running vehicle with a gunshot to the head. His name is…. My heart sunk, I gasped for air and heard myself saying why did you not call me one more time.

Jay is one story of many we take home with us. The trauma our children experience we experience second hand. We have to recognize these in order to care for ourselves. Jay and I obviously had built a relationship spacing many years. I have many stories to tell about him and so many others. I have more heartwarming stories than heartbreaking ones.

My husband was always concerned for my safety because I never hesitated to help children. Yes, Jay had gang involvement, gun charges, and not the best record. As I started, I trusted my kids, they trusted me (even when I had to pass out discipline), and their families knew me.

Jay’s death hit me hard as I saw a young man who had everything against him but was so smart, funny, handsome, such a personality, and so much in front of him. Don’t we want to save everyone?

What we say is heard by the ears of those we don’t think are listening. Are our ears, eyes, and mind open to what is being told to us? We cannot control everything, but we can continue to make strides in improving.

I dedicate my days to continue helping others break down the barriers to help children overcome to find their success. We each have a story, obstacles of our own, but we all can overcome them with the right resources, people, and supports.

Please find supports to help your students and families. However, most importantly, have a wellness plan to support all of your staff who experience second-hand trauma daily. They are building relationships with children and families. When things are not going well for the people, we serve it weighs on us as well.

Gears turning


Are your gears turning? What gears am I talking about? As a child, you may have heard; I can see those gears turning.

We know they were referring to our thinking ability. I may be showing my age! I am hoping someone has heard it!

In my husband’s business, it means those big motors you see in big industry plants or motors farmers use to help their crops. It can be busy at times.

In my world, gears connect to a shaft, which is the vision of the district. Vision is the solid foundation to maintain the focus of what we are doing as a group. It is who we are.

The gear is put into place, and the work begins. Gears are the mission that indicates the importance of what we do to accomplish the vision. The clarification of each gear ensures a focus on the action steps’ to achieve the vision. It is like the Cheshire Cat saying, “If you don’t know where you want to go, then it doesn’t matter which path you take.”

Core values and beliefs provided by the staff is the oil used for the gears to fit into place with support. When the fuel from family and community turn the gears in the right direction, it can all come together.

Vision, Mission, Core Values, Collaboration with family and community you will have students achieving. Building a system focused on this structure positive outcomes follow.

I had the opportunity to hear Robyn Jackson speak today and it was terrific. She has a great plan on how to look at Vision, Mission, and Core Values as a way to anchor your district or school to handle anything. You can get through this pandemic with those three Anchors and a focused approach! Please check out Robyn Jackson’s books and her website @Robyn_Mindsteps


Always Grow

Have you ever planted something? Maybe you have a house plant you care for daily? Watching what you planted grow gives you a special feeling. Take a few minutes to look around at everything someone has planted and you see growing. It may take some imagination if you have lots of snow!

People have so much power in the process of growth. It is not only the seeds we place in the soil but the words, actions, ideas, and resources we put in the paths of others or provide for ourselves, which develop.

We are always growing because we are always learning. Some of the lessons we receive are tough, but it is through those we can find our true direction.

Children need to learn this process as they grow. I have had this debate for it seems decades. I will continue to plead students who fail an assignment or test should not just move on and a grade is placed in the grade book. In addition, homework not completed should not receive a zero and be forgotten.

Children who live in poverty or difficult situations may not have the ability to complete the homework. This then becomes an assessment of the support system and not the student’s ability. When students are not able to redo work they failed many messages are sent to them maybe without the teachers intent, but it still happens.

There is no growth happening when children are just pushed forward without taking ownership in their learning. Mistakes are the best way to learn!

Please read the attached article from Education Week by Angela Duckworth. It is absolutely an excellent example for all learners as we build self-efficacy as students lead their learning. #Bethesilutiondaily


Engagement is an exciting word! It can be life-changing for couples, an invitation to an event, or being part of an experience of learning. Many experts provide information about the importance of engagement in education and how to continue to strive to increase student engagement. However, Dr. P.J. Caposey brings to light two forms of engagement to understand.

There is student engagement in a student’s educational experience overall and an individual engagement within a classroom. The article link below provides additional information about the two forms.

When the new wave of evaluating teachers came to be, Danielson was the model everyone looked to as a guide to understand how to approach evaluation. Danielson indicated in her framework as engagement being the heart for overall improvement for student learning. The assessment began the discussions, professional development, and in most cases, confusion to-what is student engagement?

I come from the grant world, and compliance tied with improvement is our primary function. Dr. Caposey points out compelling arguments in how to look at engagement. My favorite quote from him is what I will leave you with as I hope you follow this article: “Compliance does not equal engagement.” Thank you, PJ, for your insight! I can still remember you from years ago in IPA; keep leading with a bright light!

Monday Magic Questions

Monday’s always provide a new start to a work week with an extra cup of energy to boost you into gear! As the gears begin to turn on the commute into work it is a great time to pop in Monday Magic Questions!

Questions start the gears moving in the direction of solutions to problems you may not know to exist. Why? You have not asked the magic question!

One of my previous posts was titled. Can you help? What if the question today for everyone was, How can I help? A twist on the question but a completely different impact. If everyone in your work setting asked, how can I help? How do you react?

I have had the nickname Pollyanna and Hallmark. I do like to look at things more positively, but why not? The link I will share below will provide you with information regarding how people feel about the workplace. I have designed several professional developments regarding positive culture and climate. One of my favorites was for a new Superintendent and her team. Part of the development design for her was to create a way for people to know her message and build a strong positive relationship. We did a letter of assurances to staff. I believe, I will, I am, I have and statements to let them know leadership was in their corner.

A warning to all when you make assurances they need to be genuine and followed through on. This will make or break your climate and culture!

More Magic Monday questions will come as you continue to grow, lead and succeed! When people know you care for them, they will care for you! If you model what you want to do, they will do the same for you. Please let me know how I can help you!

17 AMAZING Job Satisfaction Statistics to Know in 2020

Job Satisfaction Statistics (Editor’s Choice):

  • Only 20% of American employees feel enthusiastic about their jobs.
  • Only 55% of Americans are either satisfied or fully satisfied with what they do.
  • 33% of the American workers think that they are at their career’s dead end.
  • 21% of employees are very keen to change their careers.
  • 63% of the employees feel more committed to their organization when their employers treat them with respect.
  • 32% of the employees feel pressured to not take any time off.
  • 70% of the employees say they feel more driven to work hard when they get a vacation for a week or so.
  • 95% of American employers think that their financial wellness packages are effective to reach the company goals.

Can You Help?

“I have a killer puzzle to put together! I don’t know where to start,” said my elderly neighbor

“I will come over to help you get started.”

“What is this puzzle suppose to look like like?”

“The picture on the box is a rooster.”

“Well, I think no matter what we do we will not get all of these pieces to fit together to look like a rooster. So let’s put all of these corn flakes back in the box and have some coffee.”

Have you ever experienced a time when you could not see or hear? Educators are faced with situations daily that are like putting pieces of a puzzle together. Sometimes the pieces just don’t fit.

It seems we have issues that continue to rise in our society and a resolution is never found. I am anxiously waiting for my copy of a new book release, The Poverty Problem by Horacio Sanchez. Problems of economic hardships have been a part of our history for decades.

Children make up 23% of the United States population. When looking at data for those impacted by poverty, we find 33% of children are living in poverty, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, 2017. A continued increase in high poverty schools seems to remain in place. In 2016, 20.1 million students qualified for free lunch, and two million reduced lunch. This data is essential to grants in services for students, understanding community but more importantly-

How can you help? Solutions focused on addressing the new issues of poverty is an issue educators will need to address. Education will need to fill in the gaps where government assistance and policy inadequacies lack to manage them.

Many books and resources are available for a more in depth look into how living in poverty impacts the brain over long periods. Research has been conducted and strategies developed in regard to poverty.


Who are you?

Walking through the door, all of the eyes looked at me. “Who are you?”

Those three words are powerful! Was I ready to answer this question?

Can you answer that question? You have a name and a title, but what does this tell others? Is there more to define you?

Many books are written regarding leadership. I know many of the authors of these books and so enjoy reading them. It is so critical to know who you are before you stand before a group to lead. There are no right or wrong answers to your style of leadership.

The Ant and the Elephant written by Vince Poscente, is a parable. I love it because of the action plan you can develop to clarify and continue to work on your leadership.

Leadership is more than the title you hold. It is reflected in your words and actions. What are your values, beliefs, and vision? Leaders reflect at the end of the day how their reflection impacted others through it!

My favorite place for inspiration is Simple Truths! Enjoy one of their videos below. I found an additional one as well! Refilling your cup with inspiration is good for your heart and mind!